Since I'm on moderation, and just now found my thread, I've been reading a lot of other posts. Everyone seems to say detach, GAL and follow Sandi's 37 rules. I feel I've started to do this. I actually joined a social group and began hiking with complete strangers...this is so not me! I love going weekly to get a break and have me time.
My H was out of town and when he would call, initially I would answer, but he would not really talk with me. I began letting the kids answer. Friday I took the kids on a mini vaca. I struggled a lot because H wasn't there and every where there were families...complete families. When we finished walking through the cave, we went back to the hotel for swimming again I struggled cause H is missing out on fun with his family. We returned the room after awhile and I came here to read about how others were handling things. After a while we returned to the pool and I just took some deep breaths and thought forget him, he chose this. I've been pretty good the past 3 days with detaching.
I still would like advice regarding the legal separation. I see LC tomorrow and would like to know how I can kindly tell her where to put that suggestion...I argued with her for 10 minutes about it. I still truly believe its a bad move.
Atsbaby M:36 H:35 T: 19 M:12 S:11 D:9 BD: 5/4/14 Proof of OW 8/13/14-love note from her 8/19 admits OW 8/22/14 files D w/o telling me 9/20/14 Says he wants to reconcile
