I find myself angry somewhat regularly these days. Forgiveness is hard, particularly when H. doesn't seem to have any inkling that he played a role in our issues.
The hardest part for me is forgiving myself, though, and I think this keeps me sad and stuck rather than actively moving forward. I see all too clearly my role in our issues. I'm blaming myself almost all the time because I have indeed hurt H. very badly over the years, which is how we got to this point. I feel like if things don't get better I'm not sure that I'd be able to forgive myself.
As you're working on forgiving your spouse, how do you also go about forgiving yourself?
M - 34 H - 36 Together 10 years Married 4 years BD - March, 2014
