Tax time is here and now I have all my information I can submit it and put a dent in the credit card debt. It'll put a fair hole in it so hopefully I'll be able to clear the rest soon. My wife is also due a refund and to complicate things between us, she can get back an additional $600 by declaring we are separated. Since we've both recently taken a hit financially that $600 appears more attractive to her than a relationship. I can deal with that part thankfully.
With my wife losing her job soon, she called this morning to find out her options regarding receiving unemployment benefits when she's out of work. Apparently, the government rejected her application for more money by declaring our separation. When she's out of work that means I'll be supporting her. No biggie. Despite our separation, I've decided to live my life as a married man and that means supporting my family. She wants to stay in town so it'll put a further strain on my finances and I still feel confident about her chances of finding work here. During and after her call, she told me the situation and questioned how she is supposed to prove that she is supporting herself when she will have to "rely on" me. I didn't know how to validate that. To me, it was an insult. I know I'm doing the right thing for our family and at the same time things like this make me wonder why I bother.
I'll just keep on keeping on. Things are stagnant at the moment and yet I know they've moved in a positive direction. I may have to back off again for my own sanity and with recent events, I need to get my mind under control. We'll see how we go.
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014