I've spoken with several people over the last while that all told me that they thought it was just a matter of time before my W came back. Perhaps they were just trying to make me fell better, which it did. I have heard of many stories and seen examples amongst my friends and family where the WAS has come back after some time.
My sitch seemed so extreme at first and then in talking to many of you here and reading some of the other posting on the forum I've realised that my sitch wasn't uncommon at all. It's been amazing to be able to sit down and talk with my W again, to be able to do things with her and our kids together. Despite that, it still feels like we are so far away from a R. Staying strong and being patient in these situations is not for wussies, hehe.
My W has told me that her mother is still very angry with me. Since my W and her mother are living under the same roof and are very close this may be another obstacle that will take time to overcome.
Also, since asking if I should text my W first to ask about our kids she texted me first so that solves that dilemma
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS