One giant leap forward! - Part 10

[Fartiltre]

Good to hear from you T
You are often on my mind so, all though I am sorry about the primary cause for you post, I am very glad to read that you and you kids are doing OK.

It's weird this all feels a bit like when W left tbh. Even weirder is I feel like it's something that can be gotten used to. I have the same thoughts but I discuss them with myself. It's actually interesting to a certain degree.

I understand this so well – it is exactly the way I feel about my two BDs. The major difference between us is I didn’t do the work the first time – you did and IMHO you did an excellent job. Seems like you forgot some of it and need to get right back on track. Fortunately it seems like you are already looking inwards in search for answers.
I understand the words you and Labug have exchanged but my personal advice would be to have a long and good talk with your GF before you make any decisions. You love her, your kids love her and now – as I read it – she goes out and makes a major mistake seemingly because you stop paying her attention.
I would be able to forgive her! She came out straight and honest, told you and apologized. I would give her the opportunity to change this behavior – isn’t change what we preach and believe in here. What I would do doesn’t matter in this! This is your call but I believe she has the right to speak and both of you might get something from this to build on in the future – that goes if you split up or not.

I am sorry to tell you that your W’s behavior doesn’t surprise me at all. She seemed totally off balance last summer and she still seems to carry a lot of feelings (whatever they might be) for you. She is certainly not indifferent towards you and your life.
IMO (and yours as I read it) you need that D settled as soon as possible because she will keep bugging you until she can’t do it anymore because of the D.
I hope to hear more from you in the time to come. This might be a good occasion to take up the journaling in here