H came back around to drop off some smokes for me, it's quite late here, bought food with him because he hadn't eaten all day, general chat and then went to go, another hug and kiss on the lips, just texted him because I forgot to thank him for watching the boys, he replied no problem at all, that's what we do, help each other when we can...goodnight. little steps, am I seeing cracks???
I'd pull way back if I were you, b/c it sounds a lot like pursuit on your end. And there is still an OW...I fear you'll attach expectations to things soon- if you have not already. Tread lightly. Do NOT bring up the R.
He needs to see consistent change in you before he can trust that his own efforts will be matched...so you may be expecting and monitoring a bit early...but once he sees that you are behaving in new ways, that you are a different woman and that you won't backslide into old punitive patterns, THEN maybe he can figure out what he needs to figure out for his own work.
Don't backslide now. Keep up the GAL and Detachment work, please...for your sake and your kid's...
How are the GAL things going?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
