ACK! One last thing (I'm all over the place today...)....
So - our kids are going to camp in a few weeks and we're going to be alone.
H wants to go with me to his parents summer house, and then he wants me to go to Toronto. He will go to work. I will work from the hotel room. (My job is flexible like that.)
I think this is another way that he gets to go work in the city where OW is with a babysitter (in this case, me...). He hasn't been there since May. His next trip he is going with a co-worker (and I think I remember that co-worker and his wife nearly caught H and OW at the hotel very early on).
I'm really struggling with this. I don't really want to go to her city and potentially run into her. That said, I appreciate the fact that he feels that he will restrain himself from his addiction if I'm around.
He's said he wants to talk about this tonight. Every time he brings it up, I'm silent. I'm really stuck in a place of stillness and silence right now.