"My issue is I get verbally agressive instead of staying calm.
Then I get on her too. This is where I need coaching..on keeping my mouth shut."

So what are you doing to get that fixed? I don't see that you've gone to counseling for yourself to get your control issues under control.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER