Hi all - "was never in love"

[Old Dog]

In my own case, my parents didn’t seem to display much outward affection. They did love each other: there weren’t any huge rows or anything like that, it was just the British reserve. We don’t do that sort of thing, we’re British: passion is for those hot headed latino types. So that means I grew up thinking that was normal. Any excessive display of affection felt awkward. This isn’t an excuse, it’s just the way it was.

I’m going back over D with a pencil and a notepad. Mine is a second-hand copy where someone has already marked out passages: I hope it worked for them. I am writing so much stuff down these days, I’ve got loads of pieces of paper with SWOTs and goals and hang-ups etc on them. It would be nice if I could get them into some sort of shape so I can be prepared because my W can do this in her head. I love the way you've approached this and got on with it. Procrastination be gone.

I do need to re-examine short term goals and 180s though. I have some of both and have already been doing both, but it’s a bit haphazard. I’ll see if I can sort them out by Wednesday when I’ve got my next appointment with my counsellor and I’ll post them on my thread.

I have been getting a little bit more of a life recently - I couldn’t really have done much less before. Your schedule looks quite active looking at it though Mat. If you’re enjoying doing those things, then that’s fine, it is part of your life: if not, then change up. Don’t assume your ‘half-ass things’ are unappreciated though. It may be the case if you didn’t do it, no-one would. I wish I could go to more gigs, I used to go to lots, but there ain’t much where I am.

I’m making an effort to meet up with friends again, it’s so easy to let it slide: Facebook is a real plus for this. I had a quick look at meetup.com as well: I was primarily looking for tech groups in my area, but also maybe mindfulness group. Like dating sites, I think it’s frowned upon to maybe use them, but I’ve over that mentality now: they’re useful tools.

I’ll have to my goals etc on my thread. Pop over in a while to see if I’ve managed it.

Just read your top 4 reasons why your fighting for your W. We could be talking about my W here. They’re definitely worth fighting for.