In regards to affair-I don't believe so, but it has definitely crossed my mind. I asked her...she said absolutely not. But who knows.
I'm not sure I was meeting her most important needs as she could never articulate them for me.
I don't believe I was doing anything to empty her love tank.
She does not communicate well. Its even worse when she's emotional. Her whole reason for doubting our marriage is "connection", "intimacy" and "spark". But when I ask her what those things mean to her she can't explain. It's all very confusing.
I understand her concern of "intimacy", but she has put up a wall and won't let me in.
I understand her concern with "connection". (I think our connection is better than most to this day) But when I ask her to articulate that for me she can't.
As for her concern with "spark", I would think that's reserved for the early parts of a relationship.
Whenever these talks come up I am calm and not overly emotional.
My wife of 3-4 years ago would never have looked at things this way. I've asked her before if she's chasing the feelings she got from her EA 2 years ago. She said she was not and they she knew those feelings weren't real.
She seems to be better the last couple days. She's been shopping for things for the house using a lot "we" statements. She still texts me several times a day.
She broke down crying yesterday that her friends didn't do enough for her birthday etc. She's emotionally up and down. But I'm not sure if she see's it.
I am honestly not sure what to do at this point.
M-38 W-32 D7, S4 M-10 BD-May '12 S for 1 month-June '12 Reconcile, Piecing
