I do not understand why people think that being alone is aligned with selfishness, being rigid and wanting your own way.
There is all the difference in the world between people who cannot get along with others, and those who are comfortable to dwell alone. I use dwell rather than live because it is a state of being.
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why in the world does being attached to someone in a sigfnificant way - necessarily mean you lose who you are? there's room for both - right?-
Of course there is room for both. Having a strong sense of self does not mean selfishness, being attached doesn't mean you lose yourself. I feel there is huge pressure from within and without to be a couple, that it is 'better', that people on their own are not OK - witness your comments about getting rigid and selfish.
Contentment is my goal, not complacency, nor shutting the world out. Just being fine with me.
