Cross country DB with WAS

[Anders]

Good to hear another voice! Thanks for dropping in Mat.

A tough one to figure out and very curious to hear what your coach advises you. It feels like a game of chess to me right now. I don't think it is a coincidence but my mum also offered the same advice: reach out occasionally but without coming across as being over eager or pursuing.

I am re-reading Divorce Remedy and Michele does reference scenarios like mine and some advice which I am mulling over on how best to apply:

1. Push their positive buttons: I forgot about this but she mentions this specifically as a technique to try. The base being that we do know what makes our significant other feel good and we should leverage that.

2. Make the most of every interaction: Underdog reiterated this advice.

My sense is that it also comes down to being detached and having a self confident approach,e.g. in my case playfully reach out but without the expectation of getting a reply back.