Hi Heather and Wonka, Must really s%$K to have the ex living with OW in place YOU helped him pay for. Unreal how they think. You are so right about never doing this alone. Of course they will do whatever they have to to find someone who will back them. I think that's why so many MLCers end up with people that are so unlike anyone they would have even noticed in the past. As for the lawyer, yes I have one. Up until now I really didn't want to keep much from the house but you are right about her "shopping". It actually occurred to me after Sunday's little "shopping" spree (taking beef from the freezer!) that it's time for her to start doing this the "right" way, through the lawyers. Especially since she wants to keep ALL the stuff that we BOUGHT from her grandmothers estate sale because it's "her" family stuff. I asked a couple of her in-laws about their thoughts on that explaining that I wanted to keep a few items but it's their family stuff what did they think. They all said that there was nothing wrong with me keeping any of it. They each pointed out that I have been a part of the family for 20+ years and still am as my D's are blood relatives. This is going to be a sticking point with my W, I am sure of that now and I'm going to contact my L today and see how I can keep the items I want. Legally I am entitled to keep half of the things we bought. My W is using that it's just not "right". Well, neither is what she is doing!
Wonka, I've taken your suggestions and have been making a lot more and am keeping things open and contacting some other companies. I was able to make enough in the last month that I'm now talking to the money guy about starting a regular salary as well as the large commission that we get now. I did well enough that I got a large bonus for my efforts already. At this point I wouldn't need a large salary, just enough to offset the time between projects. I have made enough that I don't have to worry about living expenses for several months. Still not enough to pay for the private school on my own but there is the ability for me to make large amounts of money quickly in this business. I don't know if you saw my post but a week and a half ago I got notice that the IRS is auditing me. They are holding my refund from last year until that gets done. I really need to get that out of the way (at least the first part of getting all my papers together) ASAP.
You are right about losing focus somewhat. Last week my W did some pretty rotten things (like show up at my house when she didn't think I would be there, with her father no less to take some furniture) that got me off kilter somewhat. I had been feeling good and wasn't as angry until she started pulling her stuff. Well, my D14 is back home and I'm beginning to feel a bit better again. I'm also less upset about the IRS and have relaxed about that as well. I figure there is no use worrying about what MIGHT happen and just get the process started and see what happens.
