Starsky... please advise me the way you did with pearlharbr.
MM, Pearlharbr was a quick study. You have proven either to stubborn, too unwilling or emotionally/mentally too unable to learn, and so I merely drop by to encourage you or point out something to you, as the case may be.
I could (and have!) tell you what your ex is thinking, but to share those insights with you (for the umpteenth time) will only to further feed your obsession and dysfunction, and I care for you too much to do that.