It's none of my business, but I wouldn't want that OW coming to where I live. I would drive your son over and have him pick the things up, once that OW has found them. Your home is your safe and special place that hasn't been ruined by their drama and you want to keep it that way. Next thing you know, your h and the ow will be stopping by all of the time w/excuses for this and that.
Seriously, I think those two deserve each other and as long as she's willing to play his admirer, he'll continue to be happy w/her being there.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
