A lot has happened since I last posted here. My mother passed away a couple of weeks ago. That has been very hard but I'm hanging in thanks to the support of family and friends.
Besides that, my W and I are now seeing each other fairly regularly. We sat down this past Friday and had dinner together as a family at a restaurant. That was the first time that had happened in over 9 months. When my W and I talk we seem to get along really well. We laugh together, no arguing at all, things seem really good. She still is distant though for the most part and I can tell she still is very unsure. She hasn't brought up anything about trying to R and I haven't gone there either.
During the last meeting she mentioned her friend that was getting married so I threw out that I had been reading some great books (thanks MWD) and that I could recommend some to her friend. That seemed to catch my W's interest. I also said I wish I had known all of the things during our M that I know now and that I knew I was a dolt (our kids were there so I had to keep it G rated, hehe).
Also, I asked her for her new cell phone number and she gave it to me I said I thought it was "kinda funny that I was asking for her phone number all over again" and she laughed. She also mentioned that she had been out for dinner the night before and she seemed to make sure I knew that it was with her girlfriend.
Anyway, things have come a LONG way. I've been keeping very busy and the progress my W and I have made has felt so good. Sharing the kids week to week is going very well and we seem to be getting pretty good at co-parenting.
I'm going to stick with what I've been doing so far, not push too much with my W. Although, it was our 8th anniversary last week and I did email her a list of things I was thankful to her for, something I'd put together a long time ago. Pursuing yes but it felt like the right thing to do.
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS