Pbetra- mone is an issue here as well. We still have joint account that all bills come out of. H has been playing more and working less so contributing minimally. Each paycheck I move a chunk into a separate account to be sure we don't fall short at end of month.
Why do you keep giving him money? What would happen if you said no?
juliegayle H indirectly gets money as needs (utilities) are paid automatically through an account. I have to get food for household - there is no other way at the moment. H saves by staying here. I loaned the money recently b/cause I did not want an upset in my child's life ... AGAIN. Last major event re: child was only a year ago (& had a few prior). After finally beginning to settle, the MLC occured.
The 'cash' has NOT been going on regularly. Last request was a few months ago - this was a quick fix to appease sitch as child had school tests (new school, new home too). Did not not want the 'fall out' carried to school & back again, so I loaned $$ to keep the home equilibrum until summer (school out a week ago). With Summer, I can asccess sitch and provide buffer for child if needed. This was the reason for my recent query - trying to objectively evaluate ... p.
oh I made a joke w/child a few months ago. I was joking about sending dad off to sort things out. This was after child's observations re dad & overall sitch - child's response was controlled but with obvious discomfort & fear. The lack of stability seems to be too much at this point
pbetra ---- M: 15 yrs (in 2014) BD: 6/03/2014 Infidelity ('known' from July 2014) Denied PA Feb 2015 2 leave Mar 2015 (left early Summer). Some contact. Back briefly 2017 (after family death) Separated 2017
