Thanks FY, I actually would feel better if my W WAS doing this "on her own". The thing is she has given up her life to her father and is doing what HE thinks is best. Even as far as him telling her where her bed needs to be in HER room. For a long time post B-day (while she still wasn't sure she wanted to leave and before her dad came to our state) she was starting to get into horoscopes! She started to really believe in the power of the stars to tell her what she needed to do with her life! She would go on and on about how she is looking for advice and that was just as good as any other scource!
I see her doing things she never would have done and I know are things her father would tell her to do. I feel like she has decided that she is going to allow him to take over because she knows with him, unless you do things the way he wants you to, he will cut you out of his life (like he did with her brother and how he refused to be a part of her life when she wouldn't leave me and the kids). It just feels like this sitch is extending her MLC and causing more damage. I know it's her choice to do the things he suggests (like how my D19 said she heard her mom say to him over and over that she didn't want to get a lawyer and file but relented when he kept insisting!) but without his influence she may not have actually done many of the things she has.
Of course none of that really matters. She is doing what she is. Yesterday she brought my D14 back home and once again, loaded up her car with all kinds of stuff that really doesn't belong to her! From the only iron we own to the ice cream maker to frozen food (beef) from the freezer! I just don't get her. She even took the plastic tray that I have the laundry stuff on and got angry when I told her that I was using that. She is just so weirdly selfish! At the same time she still has the closet in my room full of her clothes that no longer fit (I really could use that space to get organized) and 2 book shelves full of her books (most of them for her work) and again I could use that space for MY things. She's in no hurry to get that stuff. I think it may be time to tell her that she can no longer just take stuff out of my home and the rest of the stuff she thinks is "hers" will need to wait until AFTER the D is final.
Need to get back to making money and moving forward. I need to get my IRS stuff squared away this week for sure. I know it's not the end but until I get this started and send what they asked for the longer it will take!
