Oh Julie. You are paying h's way? I'm saying this with love-NOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!
I remember after BD, I told h we would now share costs 50/50 for bills. The look on his face was incredulous. He said," that's ridiculous- you make more money than me." As you and I have both learned on this board (and it can be a difficult pill to swallow), it's not your job to teach your h life lessons. Life WILL so that. However, you should always take care of you and the kids financially. H is a big boy and needs to learn to stand on his own 2 feet. He is obviously focused on himself while you have a family to take care of.
I think separating finances is the right thing to do. You can do it:-)
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
