I finished co-dependant no more. It's a really great book and highlights probles that I encounter. It also follows up quite well to no more mr nice guy (about men who become co-dependant after being raised by single moms.
You are probably right, my co-dependance is shining through. I'm doing whatever I can do to break it. It does take time and self discipline. The biggest thing is actually realizing that I can't fix the W. That she has a sickness (just like I have mine). That she has to realize she has a problem, and have the realization that her compulsive disorders hurt her and the family. Realizing that there is nothing I can do, but stay away to have that happen is very hard.
And then, having the 2nd realization that if she doesn't realize she also needs to fix herself, that I may have to serve papers just to protect myself and my kids from the effects of her ... well .. her.
It is a horrible feeling. The feeling of begging wanting needing longing for her to say something, and the knowledge deep down that she most likely wont, and that no matter what I need to move on to heal.
Me: 35 Her: 33 D : 16 S : 9 Together: 14 years Married: 12 She left 4/14/2014 Separated: 5/25/2014 OM Confirmed 7/2014 She filed 8/7/2014 I Filed 10/21/2014 Divorce final 2/12/2015
