Trying to find my way

[Meghan]

Thanks, CSan - that's an excellent point, and one that I tend to forget.

I have an anxiety problem at the best of times, and I tend to try to stay in control. I've been trying to notice and predict his reactions so I can manage things, but it's just not possible to have control over how someone else feels, and I'm working on letting go of that (clearly more successfully at some times than at others).

I keep forgetting your point about validating himself, too - that he's really just looking for any and all justifications for how he's feeling, and there are so many well-intentioned things that can be easily twisted to fit into his current narrative.