Meghan, you have to understand that no matter what you do it may upset/anger/bother him regardless of your intentions. He's going to focus on the negative which makes it easier to validate to himself the reasons why he wants to leave the M (at least for now). Just keep going, you'll get there.
Me 34 M 2.5 (Both 2nd M) My kids-D 17,S 16,S 12 BD 2/14 D final 7/2014