You are so right. He will absolutely not do anything unless he thinks it was his idea.
My attny thinks he will be gone in a flash if I completely separated finances. He would have to find someone else to pay his way or else actually work more.
Me 44 H 42 M 10 T 12 (at time of BD) Ss 20 16 S11 (special needs)
BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom 10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied S and I move out 3/15