afraid I have waited too long #3

[nit84]

I have a question, Nothing really new in my sitch I got a good morning today and I later told W that something she did was a great idea and she said thanks.

I was gone all afternoon as I believe W was also. I came home her door is ajar and when I rounded the corner she shut it rather hard. I went about my business and was then in my room.

She came out of our bedroom and was going somewhere and she stopped to ask if our BIL is on vacation because her Mother was trying to get a hold of him. I said no but he has changed his phone number a couple times since they last contacted him. He is a HVAC technician and has done favors for my MIL in the past and some other of W family even after S.

None of this really bothers me because it is out of my control what other people say or do.

Last week my W and MIL wiped out my family from a social media site including my Sister whose H is the BIL whom I am speaking about. Not a big deal at all no one seemed upset at this.

My question is When W asked these things about BIL should I have said something along the lines of "why is you Mom calling him, cant she find someone else to do her a favor seeing as we really aren't family anymore."?

I didn't have urge to say anything and I just gave W the number and she said thanks.

Should I be more upset about this then I am? I don't want W to think I was giving her his number hoping that she would reconsider her decision to remain S and that is why I didn't get upset or say some snide remark.

I saw no reason to take issue with this and add fuel to an already raging fire.


Sometimes I think I get it all backwards I get upset about the wrong things at the wrong times and then stuff that should upset me doesn't.

Just trying to make the best of a difficult deal.