Thanks... my reason for saying "not a good idea, right now" was intentional. .. Not a lie. It was stating that regardless of what he asks me to do right now, its just not going to be a good idea.... right now. That its about me not accepting crumbs because I want & deserve more... If he cannot deliver, thats ok. It wasn't about having plans or not.... regardless of having a plan or staying home...its not a good idea right now! .... right? (see my point?)
Butterflies?... I am trying to see the benefits/advantages...
Heather, thanks for your opinion. I have let go of his pant leg (for real) just under a month ago. I have been maintaining my "NO" responses to his "offers" because I am treating it like an addiction. I need to be able to say no to my drug. I am not looking for anything from anyone. If someone offers a comment (good or bad), I appreciate it and try to learn from it. If you don't see my growth, thats yours. Sorry, you feel that way. I never claimed to be healed from my co-dependency (I am working on it).
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He texted early today offering to come pick up the cat. I was heading out. I suggested that my daughter will take her back instead. He has texted me often throughout the day, unimportant work related (I assume just to inform me). My DD just left to take the cat back now. Mentioning this because he has been using the cat as an excuse to have me drop by the house to swim or work, etc....
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
