Just thinking some more about my feelings/concerns regarding H last night, particularly around the drinking. And realizing how judgemental and critical I can be of him. Fact is, he didn't do anything wrong and was just having a blast. Also, it's not like I don't enjoy a few drinks on occasion --- and actually have over done it a few times. Why am I criticizing him? I think whenever I feel like judging something he's doing it's a signal that I need to step back and take a good hard look at myself. I think I need to just accept him for who he is, I'm sure he has often felt I don't. I think I need to think about whether I CAN accept him as is and if I can't then instead of trying to control/change him then move on! I don't really want to move on but I do think I need to change my perspective on aspects of H that sometimes bug me.


M: 42
H: 43
M: 8 years
S7 and D4
H has D19 and S25 from previous M
Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA
1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail
2nd separation: 5/1/14