Big Mac, I wish you strength and resilience to get through your journey. I have no wisdom to offer, just compassion and support. But you MuST be strong on your own.

One thing the DB challenges is what you would do if your W passed away. She wouldn't want you to be a shell, so while you would grieve her and always have love for her and feel that loss, you would have to keep living. Think of what you would do in that case and do it.

It's so important. Don't worry about if every change is something your W asked for during the R. Someone else pointed out if the only changes you make are those that she wanted they will appear suspicious and manipulative. Be the person god wants you to be.

Hang in bud and don't make any life changing decisions when you're emotional. Just learn more about who you are, learn to love that person, and be your best self. Take care my man.

Me:38 XW:38
T:11 years M:8 years
Kids: S14, D11, D7
BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15