To stand or not to stand... to take a stand or not to take a stand.

As far as standing it is getting harder. He is getting more enmeshed in life with OW and her daughter and just generally meaner.

Today I decided to take a stand about 2 things. 1. He lives in same house but comes and goes as he pleases. H is always asking if dad is coming home and I never know what to tell him. H pucks up s m w and f from camp. I know we won't see him on t th. It is the week end that really causes a lot of anxiety. I asked h to set a weekend schedule or at least let me know what to tell s. He got mad and said I was trying to control him..

2. The mlc dog. H has made it clear that this is not my dog. I am not supposed to do anything for him or love him. Obviously that is not possible when h is gone for 48 or more hours at a time. Again I asked if we could work out a system for the dog because it is hard to walk him with s. More hatefully comments and "shut up" from h.

I really feel it would be so much easier if he moved out.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15