Sometimes things hurt for a little bit because they are true and we don't want to realize it... that doesn't mean they aren't unwelcome. So it's OK, Maybell Because I now realize I really was a plan B to him for much of the past ten years. I liked the stages post - I think I am squarely in stage 3, with glimpses of stage 4 from time to time but not really there yet.
I'm thinking about getting a cat because I really miss having a pet in my life. But, I'm concerned about what would happen if I were to move back, as "our" cat that lives with H doesn't get along with other cats. Do I act as if I'm never coming back and deal with it if and when the time comes? Do I hold off for awhile (and how long do I "wait")?
Me:30 H:29, no kids T:12, M:4 (when D was final) 12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore" 6/14: Separated (I move) 1/15: H filed for D 5/15: D final
Because I now realize I really was a plan B to him for much of the past ten years. I liked the stages post - I think I am squarely in stage 3, with glimpses of stage 4 from time to time but not really there yet.