Matt, I'm so glad you made it to the party and had a good time. Also that her family still loves you. (who could blame them? )
"Hardly looks me in the eye."
Your W is still deep in crisis, and likely will be for some time. Doesn't mean she can't make her way out though. I know you understand she needs to do this on her own.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl