Well hello everyone, Went to the party with my W and girls. We all went together in the same car. I drove to her house and we went in her car. I had fun. None of her relatives were anything but nice and supportive to me. I had very little interaction with my W while there and talked mostly to the kids on the trip and my w was usually part of the conversation. No incidents, she said nothing that really upset me.
We even stopped on the way back to buy some things for her house and the girls. My W did tell me that she STILL isn't sleeping. She wakes every night at about 3:30 AM and gets up for work at 5:45 (even though she doesn't need to be there for hours). Part of her reason for leaving was her anxiety and inability to sleep which she blamed on me. It seems that she is already not getting the benefits she thought she would by leaving. Of course that doesn't make her think one bit that she made a mistake. She is having way too much fun playing "teenager with first apartment and daddy loves me this time". None of her relatives understand what she is doing or why. That means nothing to her as she doesn't care what anyone thinks but her father.
All in all it was a good day. Didn't lose my cool at all, not once. My W tells me when I ask when I can expect to have my D's come back to my place that she wants to bring them tomorrow and that way she can pick up more "stuff" and can bring them with her. She also said we need to find a "half way point" between my house and hers for pick up and drop off. She is VERY business like when talking to me. Never talks about anything really just small talk and logistics of the kids. Hardly looks me in the eye.
Nothing bad happened. Good thing was I felt very good that everyone there at one point or another told me that they still consider me part of the family and love me. Got nothing good from W but didn't expect anything so that was neither good nor bad.
One thing is certain. She has absolutely zero 2nd thoughts about her decision to leave and I didn't expect her too. I find it funny that she had expected to go off her meds the day she moved out and she still can't sleep through the night because she's still anxious. Next she will find (as soon as the fun of getting her new place together and her dad paying attention to her) I expect the depression will rear it's head as well. Not my problem anymore except as it concerns my kids and her ability to take proper care of them. We will see how that sitch progresses down the road.
I feel pretty good. Still have many things hanging over my head but it's nice to know I can be around my W and not be at all effected by it. At least for now.
