GB, I am certain the A won't last because of who she is- this is someone who he has known for over 15 years and he made SEVERAL comments about all the things about her that bother him (including her looks-- she is not what you would consider attractive by conventional standards). She went through S and D last summer and was totally sitting right there on the side encouraging H to leave me. She offered him attention. She is drama drama drama. It simply won't last. It won't.
My intuition tells me it self-destructed. It's a very codependent relationship- she's one of the ringleaders of the group of friends he hangs out with. He's been spending a lot of time with his parents lately and has referenced how he's ruined his life, his life is horrible, etc. his job is going well, so what else would he be bemoaning?
Hard to explain- I just "felt" it.
The note literally doesn't change anything. I still am standing for my M and I knew about the A. It just brought back alllllllllllll the horrible feelings from when he first left.
Me: 39 H: 45 Second marriage for both H left 12/2013 M:4 T:5.5
