Well said Artsy and Pilot. I'm going through the same struggle as Lisa. Recently I found out the A is still going on. Even though they both told me it has stopped. So I am living in a lie too. Yeah it hurts, it burns. But like Lisa says "thank you for the words of wisdom."
Lisa, be strong and focus on the big picture... You're doing everything you can to get S back ( on H own decision). The path we walk now is emotionally strapped and long. But what we do is the best approach and someday you will look back and know that you have gave it your all (with dignity :))
Be patient and remember we cannot control them. Just let it play out. And we have time, time to GAL and better ourselves for...ourselves.
