Trying to find my way

[Ben2010]

Meghan,
Here is a quote from another guy in the SSM thread:

Its not too hard to stoke the fires without actually making love.

We men are visual creatures. Be eye candy. Its that simple (at least for most of us)

Lounge around the house in lingerie instead of sweats or anything baggy and unflattering.

Be a tease and flash him. Bend over with locked knees. See if you can distract him with upskirt/down blouse shots.

Dont wear underwear, and make sure he realizes that - but without telling him. If he comments, just give him one of those looks you women are so good at giving and let him enjoy the view.

And whenever he approaches, you playfully shoot him down telling him there is a time and place for everything and continue teasing. LOVE your role in teasing him, enjoy the ego boost of his oogling, you are the object of his desire - embrace it!

You will drive him nuts!

And when its finally go time, he will have all this pent up sexual energy to unleash and you will both be smiling in the end

I would agree with all of this except the part about you shooting him down. Make him "commit" to sex with you by "chasing" you a bit playfully. Dont shoot him down at all though. Maybe even do something like semi-violently push him back on the couch or bed and undo his pants and use your mouth for a minute and then climb on top of him. You doing things like this will plant the idea in his mind that you WANT to do it and not just to fix the situation. You have to trust us on this one. Be confident, sexy and flirty a bit without pursuit.

Sex can be a great healing/bonding experience. And make-up sex is on a whole different level. Im not saying that it will solve all of your problems here, but it could calm the storm alot.

When that works and your H goes on the trip, let me know. I have some more ideas for you