WAH with OW/EA - advice wanted! :)

[LisaB]

Hi artsy! Welcome back from camping! I love camping, I'm glad you had a good time and surprised yourself.

Thanks for the words of wisdom. I realize that these are his choices and it is his life and I can't do anything about those things. Of course it hurts and I am angry and upset but all I can do is focus on myself.

I thought about it a lot today and spoke with my C and I know I have to just work on my own life and let him go deal with his.

I've been struggling a lot with how to communicate with him. I don't plan to contact him at all but if the past 2 weeks are any indication I will hear from him occasionally. I have been questioning whether I should completely ignore his messages or be distant but friendly. I know he hasn't contacted me yet so I shouldn't overthink it but again judging from the past when I do get a message from him I freak out a little. It helps me to already have a plan in place.

And we live in a small town so there is a very good chance that I will actually run into him and OW. So I feel I need a plan in place for that too.

I dont want to make mistakes, I want to conduct myself with dignity while still leaving the possibility that he will recover his senses and we can try again. Therefore I think being friendly but distant in response to his contact is probably the best option. But my heart truly wants me to punch him in the face for how he has lied, cheated and mistreated me.

Thanks artsy and everyone for your support and advice, I appreciate it. Have a good day!
Hugs, Lisa