WAH with OW/EA - advice wanted! :)

[artsy]

Hi, Lisa! I just got back from camping, which was a huge 180 for me. We had fun! And the heat didn't bother me as much as I thought it would, so I'm still learning about myself day by day!!!

You CAN trust again. You CAN rebuild, but you both have to want it, and it's going to be a long time from now. Most As fizzle out. Stop paying attention to him and just worry about yourself!

You gotta act "as if" he's not coming back. That doesn't mean you've given up. I "dropped the rope", but that doesn't mean I'm not trying to save my M still- it just means he doesn't get to occupy my thoughts. I'm living for my D12 and myself and. It worrying about when I hear from him next, etc.

As Labug told me: take your eyes off him. It's only going to upset you right now, anyway.

If it is totally out of his nature to behave like he is, he will awaken at some point and hate himself (my H has told me that several times- doesn't mean he's coming home anytime soon, but at least he understands there's a problem!)

You will see on here the saying "the only way through this is THROUGH it." It's true, and it's horrible. You can do it, though.

Hang in there!