Thanks Matt for the support. That was a really rough day and I agree- these kids take it much harder than we realize even when we are doing everything we can to keep it from impacting their day today.
I'm sorry to hear your daughter is having a hard time as well. I understand where she is coming from- when my parents were separated and eventually divorced my mom would say disparaging things about my dad and get angry if I spent time with him. Even after I was married and had my first child I would hide the fact that I visited him from her. She found some pictures one day and let me have it. I finally had to put my foot down but it took me years. So hard when your parents put you in the middle like that. If your W is manipulating your kids- it will unfortunately come back to bite her. I always had a better relationship with my dad than mom because he understood that their issues should not prevent me from a relationship.
As far as my home- things are better. I'm emotionally exhausted from the week's events, but I think I did get through to H some and I'm impressed at his receptivity ( he used to be receptive but I hadn't seen that in a long time due to all his anger). He made an effort to spend time with S16 the next day and let the events if previous day go. He apologized for going off on him but still ate the expectation boundaries. He also is took both older sons to a work dinner with him the next night. I'm really glad to see that H is peeking through with some remnants of old self. But I also realize it's still a long road.
Have an awesome GNO planned to a concert tonight and one of my friends couldn't go last minute so I invited S16 and he said yes! I was surprised- and thrilled. We are going to have a great time!
Me 41 H 40 M 20 T 23 S 19,16, 8 D 13 BD1 dec 2012 not sure going to work BD2 sep 2013 seeking a D Filed oct 2013, D Feb 2015 Life is about daring greatly, about being in the arena- Brene Brown
