Unlearning conflict avoidance 13

[Meghan]

This might be really hard to do, especially right now, but it might be helpful to try to shift away from thinking that your W. has "won". This gives her an awful lot of power.

Instead, I'd suggest trying to see the "blessing in disguise" elements that you mentioned first. The situation is not ideal in a whole lot of ways, and I'm sure it feels utterly awful for you, but take some time to consider not only what might be good about this, but perhaps even how you can create some additional good out of it - this could leave you feeling more in control in the situation.