Bright, assuming it is MLC - and from what you have said it sounds like it, it is never that simple!. He is 'showing you' he can manage on his own. It is reactive, and he also sounds pretty confused to me. And in a fog.
As for the condo - tricky. We do have to work through grief to get to the other side, and not be stuck in it, on the other hand there is no point salting the wounds. And I do get your point about keeping a foothold there.
Remember it isn't personal - it is what we represent to them. Look at GGGs thread for sheer childish irrationality - deep down they are all like this.
