As I think back on my situation, I really, really think going dark was the ticket for me. I really had a hell of a time with it but I listened to the vets. I can't stress that enough.
The vets know what they're talking about. This is such an emotional time, it's like temporary insanity. The vets are removed from our situations and can see things more clearly, trust them!
All the advice I received was the hardest and most painful thing for me. But it was counter-intuitive. Everything I thought would help, was the opposite of what worked!
My best advice, is to take a step back. Listen to these fine folks that have walked in our shoes and trust them. They really do know what they are talking about.
And when you feel weak, read the success stories and "Advice from Wise DBer's" forums. I did this all the time. Hell, I've memorized have of those stories.
You all CAN do this. And even if your relationship doesn't work out, I know you will all make someone else very lucky to have such a dedicated and loyal, loving partner.
