M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
Now I'm getting texts from her at work. SHe says she still smells like my cologne. I told her I had another new really nice cologne and she responded "Im going to have to smell like that one too!!!"
Wow, just wow.
I'm going to continue to play it cool and let her come to me (not too much). I'm still experimenting and monitoring results.
Me 47/W 34 T 16 M 13 No kids BD 6/2013 W asked that I move out 6/2013 I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013 separate beds not much talking Served D Complaint 5/2014 W moved out 9/27/2014
This is just AMAZING! I can't tell you how happy I am to hear all of this. So happy I feel more happiness for you than sadness for my own WAW! So awesome Thorn I am so, so happy for you my friend!
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
As I think back on my situation, I really, really think going dark was the ticket for me. I really had a hell of a time with it but I listened to the vets. I can't stress that enough.
The vets know what they're talking about. This is such an emotional time, it's like temporary insanity. The vets are removed from our situations and can see things more clearly, trust them!
All the advice I received was the hardest and most painful thing for me. But it was counter-intuitive. Everything I thought would help, was the opposite of what worked!
My best advice, is to take a step back. Listen to these fine folks that have walked in our shoes and trust them. They really do know what they are talking about.
And when you feel weak, read the success stories and "Advice from Wise DBer's" forums. I did this all the time. Hell, I've memorized have of those stories.
You all CAN do this. And even if your relationship doesn't work out, I know you will all make someone else very lucky to have such a dedicated and loyal, loving partner.
