After BD he told me that he hated when I called him to "complain" about s and mentioned that particular day as an example of my weakness and inability to "handle" s properly.
Memories like that make me hate him and miss him terribly at the same time. This s@cks.
That does suck. But something to remember - this is how he feels right now. It's fluid. What you describe is what a partner would do - support one another. What he is saying now is how he feels at the moment. But even to a casual observer, what he's saying now is not realistic. At the time he was either too weak to voice his feelings or he is re-writing history.
Personally, I don't find it very mature to blame somebody for something that happened in the distant past. Something we did because at the time we felt it was the right thing to do. We blame somebody for the past because we're angry about something else.
What you displayed was appropriate to the situation from what I see. What he did was appropriate for his role and feelings at the time. What he is saying now has a root in reality, but that's about it..
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
