. Should I tell her that I don't like her making contact with him like this? Giving
I have a feeling she already knows you don't like it, and that's why they were meeting secretly. So much for your friend giving his word! Of course, your W never gave hers.
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What I want to do is draw the boundaries. But afraid it may back fire on our progress. I know she will look at it as controlling. How do I set boundaries without seeming to control?
First, what progress are you talking about? And why are you worried about boundaries being a backfire more than them meeting together after you told them to end things?
Boundaries are not to control the other person. It is to protect yourself. If anyone is being controlled here, it's you. You have allowed their behavior to control you!
They are not going to stop this A just b/c you found out about it, or b/c he promised to end it. They think they have it made....b/c you are helping them keep it from OM's wife. So they will continue to carry it forward. Seems to me your W and your best friend should be shaking in their shoes, wondering what you will do.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
