Thanks Heather. I don't want to be in uncharitable to h. He did not say he expected me to fail. It is just my interpretation.
Back when I thought we were a happy couple I used to call h when s was really bad in car. I remember one time standing on the side of the road crying to h while s raged in the car. I didn't expect him to do anything. I just wanted emotional support from someone who I thought loved me and was also the only other person in the world who cared about s as much as I did. When I got home that day he gave me a big hug and let me cry and took over with s for the rest of the night.
After BD he told me that he hated when I called him to "complain" about s and mentioned that particular day as an example of my weakness and inability to "handle" s properly.
Memories like that make me hate him and miss him terribly at the same time. This s@cks.
Me 44 H 42 M 10 T 12 (at time of BD) Ss 20 16 S11 (special needs)
BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom 10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied S and I move out 3/15
