Gabby: "You just proved something very crucial here. You are only staying in the business for hopes of reconciliation . You would get out if there was no personal future ?!?".>>>>> No, not sure how you can suggest that. I am in the business because it is part mine & worth ALOT of money. I am staying in it to get my part & then exit. Unless the feelings are gone, I cannot imagine remaining in this partnership. This may take 2 more years, before I can exit.
Ken: BUT, IT IS both. It was his before, then we reorganized & brought in different inventory. Changed the name. The company grew drastically.
WH: I am only repeating what he says... Yes, words are words. I am waiting for him to do what is morally right. He will. He has a conscience & is generally a good guy. Recall, we do have a mediated agreement. He is somewhat happy with it. He was generous in certain areas as well. The offer to "help" is related to the business ONLY. I am tired of making excuses to my clients ... so, helping to get stuff done, is proper partnering. Otherwise, I am not offering to help on personal stuff.
Matt: It may not be clear, but the conversation I was having was separate from 3 days ago. This one was work related & I am entitled to have a voice & make things work in a matter that is convenient for ME.. not just him. I was not trying to clarify my mistake... in anyway to him. I posted it on here to express how bad I felt. AS for the delay, there are reasons and timing that are an issue. His current RE deal affects my deal, so best not to rock the boat... just yet. I need to see the outcome of his RE deal too... it could change our financial situation & make our current mediated agreement change/alter... drastically. I guess ultimately, I need him to purchase this location... it makes the most sense (business & personally). As mentioned, I truly do not have to worry about him squeezing me out of the business. He has a conscience & must face his family and our daughter. I do not feel he would risk that. I have never seen him to not do the "right thing"... even if it tilts/leans in his favour, it will still be the right thing. And FAR better to have THAT deal than one that I would have to FIGHT with a lawyer/court. I have learned (from my previous divorce) that sometimes you get further with honey than vinegar. I am taking the sweeter approach.... for my sanity! Yes, he is a selfish jerk...right now. He is self centred. I agree. I disagree when you say he cares NOTHING for me. I see his "care" often. Wanting to make sure DD & my parents are ok. Investing time trying to help me with figuring out stuff for them/me (car/s, roof, medical care, housing). He is NOTHING like my XH, who is like MANY of the SO's on this site..... so where am I giving him my power? I feel I am doing well with dropping the rope? I have not picked it back up. I am distancing myself still. I have not been doing anything to GET HIM to see... I am doing it for me (like an addiction... recognizing the pull & saying NO)
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
