Thanks zew & train. Definitely feeling good that I seem to be making some progress in terms of applying the brakes a bit, as you said zew, coming here and posting the letter before sending. Now I'm surprised that DBing coach supported sending the letter. Maybe because I was pretty admanant in the moment. I guess it goes to show that no one source has the 'right' answer.
And no worries GoatGal, vent away any time. We all need to sometimes!
One very important thing I need to remember, which I noticed in some of the DBing notes, is to never discuss an issue with H when I'm upset. Not just angry, but upset at all. Too high risk of me turning it into anger and doing damage. She suggested doing a 48 hour hold before I speak to him. That seemed long to me but now I think it's about right.
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
