I am Lost

[ILMWF]

Since I have posted the basic story maybe some one can give me some advice. If I wanted I could contact this military persons command and they more than likely will charge him with adultery and he can be thrown out of the military which in my opinion he deserves. However I feel that he is not the real problem. The real problem was the effort I put into my work and did not pay attention to my wife for a lot of years during our marriage. By doing what I need to do and improve myself I am now a much better husband and I give a lot more time to my children and their happiness. Is this the way I should be doing or is there something I am missing. My wife has commented on the changes and in fact she cannot believe the amount of change I have made. She does not seem to understand that the changes are for me and our children and if she wants to continue this EA I am fine with that and she can leave anytime she is ready. I see a lot of hesitancy in her now that went from a sure thing she was leaving to well maybe this other guy is not that great. What do you all think am I on the right track?