Another night at the circus. D had BB and of course OW was there sitting on J's lawn chair with her feet up and cold drink in her hand. I said nothing to her. Why would I? I talked to S and saw D who came up and gave me big hugs. J said D was cranky and tired and was having an attitude. She didn't want to play she wanted me. So I stood by her dugout so she could be by her team. A little later she had to go to the bathroom but was afraid to go because she said her bottom was sore. I went with her and she eventually went to the bathroom but it took some time and coaxing. As we were leaving OW came in and said "your daddy sent me in her to look for you". I just smiled and kept walking.
Later J stopped by to let me know he would give me some money for the dog deposit and to drop off the crate. I was unloading the new stove from my car so it was for once good timing. He helped me get it in the house and into position. He then wanted to have a talk. Oh yes, you know it.
He called me out for being rude to OW. Oh yes...ow goes out if her way to be kind and considerate. What? Oh did I let J have it. I told him in no uncertain terms that OW and I were not friends and never would be friends. I said I am not kissing her butt and I don't expect her to nor do I want her to kiss mine. I don't want anything to do with her. I will be civil to her, but that's it. He said I was poisoning her relationship with the kids and OW and the kids get along great. Bull. I told him I have nothing to do with their relationship and I am not getting involved in it. If the kids mention her I tell them I don't want to talk about her. And that's that. I won't talk about her, and I am not "facilitating" the relationship between my children and this other woman. Not my circus, not my monkeys. And I also told J that I am not defending myself any more. Case closed.
He then told me about all the times when she has started "dissing" me and J has come to my rescue and defended me telling her "she is the mother of my children" blah blah blah. I almost think J is trying to instigate the negativity between me and this woman. Frankly I don't want to care enough to hate her. I don't hate her but I certainly don't like her and she isn't someone I would hang with for any long period of time even if she hadn't slept with my husband.
I think OW's insecurity is starting to bubble to the surface and J is stirring the pot with a big spoon. I don't want any part of it. I have not tried to get in the middle and I continue to just watch from the sidelines.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
