BrightFuture, that's the problem. They will never find the clean slate or perfect partner they are looking for because the issues are all within themselves. And for those like your and my Hs, they may stay like this for good. It's such a scary thought that my H will be this miserable angry negative paranoid person for life when he's only 36. I pray for him that he does not waste his life but that he faces his demons and finds real happiness within himself again.


Me: 35, H: 36, M: 6, S: 1, D: 3, BD: 4/21/14 H still living at home