I figured it was not good to say those things. TBH, I am having a hard time all the sudden dealing with not talking to her while living in the next room. I was fine for almost 8 months. What happened?
I wish I could put my finger on it so I can Identify my problem and solve it.
Without knowing it or making sure I know how to do it, I guess I was trying to set a boundary and I failed miserably.
I am still GALing, doing 180's,and trying my Damnedest to follow the DB principles. I have even gone back to reread DR but I suppose without much practice my validating and empathizing skills have lessened.
I know I am nowhere near totally detached but, other then talking with her, nothing W does or could do really bothers me at this point.
It just bothers me that my W says( I know she is a WAW but) people have asked her if I beg and pleaded for her to stay, told her I wanted to work on things, That I loved her etc...
W is right I haven't really done any or those things in a year until I have backslid these last 2 weeks.
Why then if she doesn't want an answer does she ask the question?
Should I just not answer these type questions when W poses them?
I might have forgot something here but how do you turn a question and answer session into a validating and empathizing opportunity?
Me 47/W 34 T 16 M 13 No kids BD 6/2013 W asked that I move out 6/2013 I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013 separate beds not much talking Served D Complaint 5/2014 W moved out 9/27/2014
